Jo Russell Integrative Counsellor & Psychotherapist - Hingham - Norfolk - 07766 643410
Why Counselling with Talk-it-Thru?
We all have times when problems seem to overwhelm us and we feel we can't move forward. Sometimes we can unburden ourselves by talking to others but talking things through with a counsellor goes much further. It is popularly said that "a problem shared is a problem halved" but sometimes we don't want to trouble family members or friends and talking things through with those close to us can even be unhelpful as they can be too involved to give us the unbiased support we need. As a qualified counsellor you can be assured that I would have no personal agenda and would never criticise or judge you, instead I would offer you a safe and confidential environment where you can talk and we can work things through together. I know from my own experience how important it is to find a therapist that you feel comfortable with, so our first session together would be an informal, no obligation meeting to ensure that we can work together
There are many reasons that people seek counselling such as:
The list could go on. Possibly you are not able to put into words how you are feeling right now, maybe you only have vague feelings of unease and the knowledge that things just aren’t right. Whatever the problem may be, I will be there to help and support you.
The counselling process may involve reflecting on your experiences past and present and how these experiences are affecting you now in your daily life. This can lead to a different understanding of yourself, how you relate to others and the choices you make. This understanding may then enable you to make changes in line with how you wish to live leading to a sense of fulfilment. I offer open ended and short term counselling – I would initially suggest that we meet for six sessions and then review progress to determine how long we should to work together to meet your needs. Some people only need a couple of sessions to continue with their life, but others may need more help and support before they are ready to move forward.
Why talk about the past?
During counselling you may well find that what is bothering you has its roots in the past. Many people cannot see the point in ‘raking up the past’, as they cannot go back and change what has happened. However, counselling is not about changing the past, but understanding yourself and what was happening for you at that time, so that you may understand yourself more fully in the present and gives you the chance to change things for the future.
What about the future?
Together we can make steps towards setting and achieving future goals, making the changes in your life that you wish to make.
Is therapy confidential?
Yes. I will not tell anyone about you or the issues you may struggling with unless I think you are seriously at risk of harming yourself or someone else or a child-protection issue becomes apparent. I have regular supervision that gives me support and guidance in my work with clients and ensures that I practice ethically and safely to safeguard their interests. I am a registered member of the BACP and as such am bound by their ethical guidelines,
Couples Counselling with Talk-it-Thru
Couples counselling is for everyone whatever the personal situation - a couple can be married, in a same sex relationship, a heterosexual relationship, living together or living apart - because all relationships go through good and bad times but sometimes things get really stuck and often communication breaks down. At these times it can be impossible to see a way forward. That’s when talking it through with a trained relationship counsellor can help and I am here to listen and support you both. As a qualified couples counsellor I would would never criticise or judge but would provide a safe and confidential environment for you both to explore your issues in order to reach a better understanding of the difficulties you each experience in the relationship, the challenges you face and the changes that need to be made to enable a way forward. My aim is to offer support in resolving conflicts and open up channels for effective communication by offering a consistent, thoughtful and, most importantly, unbiased presence through times of difficulty. There are many reasons that couples seek help such as when one partner has had an affair or got into debt; when there is illness or stress; when children are born or leave home, when there are health problems; sexual problems; significant life changes or events or when issues resurface which were left unresolved. Often couples are part of a wider extended family with children from previous relationships and necessary contact with previous partners that can cause many stresses and disagreements. In addition each person brings their own childhood influences and the belief and value systems they inherited. When these influences and values are different confusion and conflict can result.
In the counselling sessions the focus is never about placing the blame or responsibility on either individual, but rather on carefully exploring the interaction between the two people – their communication, behaviour and emotional patterns. In couples counselling it is the relationship that is important and the aim is to increase understanding and insights about repeated patterns of behaviour, frustrations or escalating and circular arguments; help reduce the power of disappointments and hurts, both past and present, and ultimately open up a way for each partner to discover new ways of relating and listening to each another.
The most desired outcome of couples counselling is to help a relationship improve; moving to a place of happiness, security and harmony and to provide the couple with the skills to perpetuate this whatever life throws at them.
Most couples I work with come to counselling to improve their relationship and find new ways of being and communicating with each other but there are some who come because they feel they have reached the end of the road and need help in ending the relationship in the best way possible. Whatever the situation it should never be considered a sign of failure to seek help from an impartial outsider when things get too difficult to manage in a close relationship and in fact it is a very brave thing to do.
I know how important it is to find a therapist that you both feel comfortable with, so our first session together would be an informal, no obligation meeting to ensure that we can all work together.
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